Adoption Updates

I've been getting a lot of questions lately regarding updates to our adoption, so I thought I would dedicate this post solely to that purpose.

Basically, we don't hear from our agency. . . ever. But they told us that was to be expected. They also told us the next time we receive a call from them, it will be because we have a referral. So, if my phone rings and it's an area code from Oregon, I will be beyond excited! :) In the meantime, anytime they have questions for me, or want to check in with me, it's all done over email. I like that they do it this way. I'd hate to get a call from the agency, and pick up all excited, only to have them ask me about paperwork. Unfortunately when waiting, there isn't a lot of correspondence. It is really just a lot of waiting, and nothing else.

I received an adoption alert from my agency last week, and basically it said that we will for sure have to go to Ethiopia twice for the adoption now, once for court, and once to pick up our child and bring him home. But the good news is that only one parent will need to be at court, as long as the other parent signs over power of attorney rights. So, poor T will need to go to Ethiopia twice. (And hopefully the second time to pick up our son will be with me) I think T is actually excited for this extra opportunity to meet our son. I just feel badly for him, because he only gets a couple weeks of vacation a year, and both will be spent with Ethiopia. That means he won't get a lot of time to spend with me and baby girl once she's born, and he won't be able to spend much time at home with Khalil when we have him home. That is hard. But I'm so proud of T, and so lucky to have him as my husband.

Our agency unfortunately doesn't let us know where we are on the waitlist, and the reason they do this is because children are matched with parents out of order. The way our agency explained this was that Ethiopia really tries to match the right child with the right parents. I kind of have a hard time with this notion. I mean, how are you going to see a little baby, and know that he's meant to be with us, just based on a one page letter we wrote to the Ethiopian government? But, this is how they do things, and I guess I should try to trust the process. I have "met" many people adopting through our same agency. I know some that received their referral at around the 4 month wait, and I know some that waited almost 8 months. I guess I don't understand why some are picked over others, but they are. Unfortunately, I don't know how much longer T and I have to go, but I trust that whatever child is placed with us, is meant to be our son.

So these are the adoption updates of the day. If you have any further adoption questions that weren't answered, feel free to leavea question in the comment section.